Photo of the author sitting on a green armchair. She has white skin and long black hair, and is wearing glasses.

Hello. My name is Scarlett de Courcier, but most people call me Scar. My pronouns are she/her, and I am an existential counsellor based in Hammersmith, West London.

I decided to train as an existential therapist because that is the kind of therapy that helped me the most. When I first went to therapy, I felt like I really needed someone to just listen to my story and believe me, not second-guessing what I was saying or making too many interpretations. Over the years of being in my own therapy, I have found it helpful to delve into my past experiences and make links with my current patterns of relating to people.

On this site you will find a description of the kind of therapy I offer, and the kinds of clients I work with. Please take a look around, and if there’s anything more you want to know, just get in touch.

Quick Links

About Therapy | About Me | Details & Contact

About Therapy

Sessions usually happen once a week, at the same time each week, for fifty minutes. Some clients prefer to come twice a week. Sessions are usually in person, although I do offer Zoom sessions when necessary.

If you come to see me, you can expect us to talk about things that are challenging and difficult; therapy is not an easy fix but a way to deeply understand yourself and your way of being in the world. It is not a case of “fixing” your problems, so much as understanding what is going on and providing a space where you can explore yourself and experiment with different ways of being.

Much of my work so far has been with adults who have experienced trauma in childhood, especially around physical or sexual abuse. Before I became a counsellor I worked as a computer crime investigator, specialising in child protection, so I am used to encountering stories of abuse and I understand what a profound and long-lasting impact childhood trauma can have on a person.

However, I work with clients from all sorts of backgrounds, not only those who have experienced abuse. Regardless of our upbringing there will always be elements of our lives that would benefit from being explored in therapy. Sometimes people feel like their problems are “too small” for therapy; this is not true. We all deserve a space to explore ourselves and our lives, and to come to terms with difficulties we face, whatever they might be.

I call myself an existential counsellor, which means I am interested in questions of existence: what does it mean to be you? What is that like? Which parts of your life are serving you well, and which things do we need to work through?

Although I am an existential counsellor, I also integrate other types of therapy into my practice. I have supervision with integrative and psychodynamic therapists as well, which means I can draw on a range of different elements depending on what you need and how you like to work.

Photo of the therapy room. The walls are green and there are two sofas facing each other with a coffee table in between. The sofas are green velvet and the coffee table has a box of tissues on it. The sofas are in front of a bay window. In the background, a white cat sits on an armchair next to a bookcase.

The Space

I work from my home, which looks like this. I live in a first-floor flat and unfortunately there is not a lift in the building, so it is not as accessible as I would like it to be. If you are unable to climb stairs, I do offer some online therapy slots as well.

I also have a cat, who usually joins us for sessions. Although I vacuum regularly, she sheds a lot of fur so if you have a cat allergy then it may not be the right environment for you!

If you would like to book a free initial consultation session to meet me and see the space, click here.

Initial Consultation Session

Most clients prefer to come for an initial consultation session, so that we can meet and find out a bit about each other before deciding whether to work together. The initial consultation is free and lasts 50 minutes.

In the initial session, I will ask you about your reasons for coming to therapy, and you can ask me any questions you might have. If you decide you would like to come back, I recommend coming for at least six sessions to begin with, after which we can evaluate how things are going.

If you come for a consultation but then decide I am not the right fit for you, I am happy to try to help you find a therapist who better suits your needs.

Who I work with and what I do

I work with all sorts of client presentations, but areas in which I have particular interest or extra experience include:

  • abuse
  • anxiety
  • BPD / EUPD
  • cult leavers
  • cultural issues
  • depersonalisation and derealisation
  • depression
  • dissociation
  • FGM
  • long-term complex trauma, particularly childhood trauma
  • OCD
  • relationships and sexual problems, including kink relationships and polycules
  • religious trauma
  • sexual abuse
  • sexuality and identity questions

I am passionate about working with diverse identities in terms of sexuality, gender, race and culture. I am kink-informed and happy to take the full range of human sexual experience into consideration, from asexuality to polyamory and everything in between.

I have spent my life in very diverse cultural contexts; I come from a Traveller family and grew up speaking French, Romani and English. Because I pass as white, I benefit from white privilege and I am continually trying to notice any unconscious assumptions and prejudices in myself and work through these. I do this by regularly seeking out further reading and training that challenges my unconscious biases and opens me up to perspectives that are different from my own.

I am inclusive of all bodies, regardless of age, ability and weight. I am fat-positive and I practise from a HAES (Health At Every Size) perspective.

I speak English, French, Romani, Spanish and German. Sessions are usually conducted in English.

Sometimes people worry that their problems will be “too much” for a therapist to cope with. While there are certain types of therapy I do not offer (see below for exclusions), I have not yet met a client whose presenting issues have been too much for me to handle. I believe being told that we are “too much” is an all too common experience and I want my clients to feel comfortable bringing any feelings, thoughts and experiences into the room. It will take time to build a relationship in which you feel able to do that, but I am willing to help us build that relationship together.

Who I don’t work with and what I don’t do

I do not currently work with the following client groups:

  • people under the age of 16
  • companies
  • couples
  • families
  • groups

Although I draw from a range of therapy types, there are some specific styles of therapy that I am not trained in, so I do not offer:

  • art therapy
  • dance movement therapy
  • CBT
  • DBT
  • NLP
  • transactional analysis

I do not offer short-term therapy: in general, I offer therapy lasting six months or more. This is because the style of therapy I practise involves speaking about long-embedded patterns, and this takes time, both in terms of building a therapeutic relationship and working through the issues we encounter.

If you come for a consultation but then decide I am not the right fit for you, I am happy to try to help you find a therapist who better suits your needs.

↑ back to top ↑