I have had an up-and-down relationship with new year’s resolutions for a while now. All my life I set them, and all my life I succeeded at all of them, until a few years ago when I suddenly understood how everyone else felt when they said things like “New year’s resolutions last until about the 10th of January,” because I felt the same way.
After a couple of years of not hitting my new year’s resolutions, in 2018 I made a single resolution: ‘stay in therapy.’
I did that, and it made my life a lot better, and then at the beginning of 2019 I had a whole bunch of things which I told myself were not resolutions, but goals. I wouldn’t berate myself if I didn’t hit them, but I wanted to accomplish as many of them as possible. I did pretty well.
So this year I’m reimplementing resolutions, but framing them in the same way. They’re things I’d like to achieve, but if there’s a good reason why I can’t achieve some of them, I’m not going to beat myself up about it.
Word of the Year
The ‘Word of the Year’ is a concept my friend introduced to me a couple of months ago. She’d been listening to a podcast on which the host recommended having a word that summed up the year, rather than making resolutions.
Thinking about it, I decided the most likely word for 2020 would be ‘build.’ I spent 2019 doing a whole bunch of things, working really hard, pushing myself: the whole year had a “GOGOGO” feeling to it. I put down a lot of foundations, and in 2020 I’d like to build on those.
And my resolutions are fed by this concept.
Here are my resolutions for 2020. They divide roughly into three groups:
- Resolutions: Things I am resolving to do, no matter what
- Goals: Things I would like to achieve, but I’m not going to beat myself up if I can’t
- Stretch goals: Things I’d love to achieve, but I’m not sure I’ll have time
- Stay in therapy
- Stick with the MA
- Finish the final draft of the novel
- Stick to my daily themes throughout the year
- As well as sticking to the themes of each day, stick to the routines within the days
- Listen to myself more, rather than listening to other people’s opinions about what I should do
- Make plans to take at least four weeks off and actually take them properly
- Be accepted to a clinical placement for the MA
- Go at least one full month without ordering a takeaway
- Go at least one full month without getting a taxi
- Continue doing more witchy shit
- Keep the house relatively clean, either by doing it myself or by hiring a cleaner
- Spend more time with the cat
- Spend more time at the desk in the living room
- Spend less time watching Netflix
- Make DFRWS a success (a conference I’m running at Oxford University in March)
- Hire at least one employee at Bohemiacademia
- Finish the Notebook Indexing Project
- Read at least 200 books
- Go for a walk along the river at least once a month
- Do something more with music, even if it’s a small something
- Do something more on the academic front, even if it feels like a token gesture
- Walk at least 50 miles per month
- Have a date night at least once a month
- Continue Second Saturdays at Scar’s and make it more philosophical
- Finish renovating the hallway
- Finish renovating the kitchen
- Finish writing the digital forensics textbook
- Drive a car at least four times in the year
What are your resolutions for 2020? Do you have any?
Previous years: 2019